Proud of Myself
So today Ben asked me how we do it. I swear if someone asks me that question again I will commit murder. They were all standing there waiting for my answer and then Khosi, with all the smartness of an ass threw in another one, …
Spaces, faces and places
Stories
Gather around the fire..
A Family Holiday
I want to go away someplace warm With Toni and Rowan… By the sea; collect shells and sink our feet in the cool sand. I want a typical holiday; hotel lobbies and sand castles Fake potted plants or real dotted palms The sun streaming through …
Individuality
It is fascinating that when our beliefs and convictions are questioned or threatened we seek to other and alienate. This is a defence tactic that is used by all animals automatically. It is also possible to live a life unexamined; in fact it is how …
Love is all there is
Apparently as a mother and new wife, I am in the right position to know what love is. Both these positions that I occupy – with great pleasure I should add, have indeed taught me and opened me up to love and will no doubt …
Friends and lovers
When Nqobani danced it was like watching a tigress hunt, grace and rhythm oozed from her very nimble body. She had the legs of a masai hunter, toned, long and lean. Every woman in her class wanted a slice of her incredibly delectable body but …
Change is African
I don’t know what it is about the term African that it’s expected to remain stagnant in an evolving world. No wonder the African youth are mostly caught between two worlds. The phrase “ UnAfrican” is so common that it is slowly becoming what we …
Conversations with my wife.
The trouble with mainstream religion in most of its forms is that it operates on a model that separates the sacred from the profane. I am going to go on a zen-ish tip here; If we separate our most sacred selves from our lived experiences then we …
Foreign Being
There are so many crippling yet vital and fundamental realities to being born a lesbian, a woman, an African, a black person in a world as fragmented, as phobic and as patriarchal as this one. For as long as I can remember, I have felt …
This is the day I make you mine – the tale of a lesbian wedding.
Intense activity There was a frantic bustle about the place. Everyone was busy with a chore, some cooked, others blew air into purple and white balloons, where as others like either one of the brides chased their tails, too nervous to sit still even for …
Levorna the flower robber mastermind and her mignonnes.
I thought mignonnes was too cool although slightly off topic. I know I am giving too much away through the title but I think it sounds as dangerous as it should. I have been on a very destructive course of action lately, well Toni’s opinion any way, …