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A Family Holiday

A Family Holiday

I want to go away someplace warm With Toni and Rowan… By the sea; collect shells and sink our feet in the cool sand. I want a typical holiday; hotel lobbies and sand castles Fake potted plants or real dotted palms The sun streaming through […]

Imagine me and you – movie review

Imagine me and you – movie review

Girl meets girl, girl is recently married to boy, girl and girl fall in love and ride off into the sunset to a happily ever after, stuff dreams are made of in my opinion. I do feel for boy but he is ok in the […]

Individuality

Individuality

It is fascinating that when our beliefs and convictions are questioned or threatened we seek to other and alienate. This is a defence tactic that is used by all animals automatically. It is also possible to live a life unexamined; in fact it is how […]

Love is all there is

Love is all there is

Apparently as a mother and new wife, I am in the right position to know what love is. Both these positions that I occupy – with great pleasure  I should add, have indeed taught me and opened me up to love and will no doubt […]

God is with us_A response to recent events in Uganda and Nigeria

God is with us_A response to recent events in Uganda and Nigeria

Psalm 18: 16-19 16 He reached down from on high and took hold of me; he drew me out of deep waters. 17 He rescued me from my powerful enemy, from my foes, who were too strong for me. 18 They confronted me in the […]

Friends and lovers

Friends and lovers

When Nqobani danced it was like watching a tigress hunt, grace and rhythm oozed from her very nimble body. She had the legs of a masai hunter, toned, long and lean. Every woman in her class wanted a slice of her incredibly delectable body but […]

Change is African

Change is African

I don’t know what it is about the term African that it’s expected to remain stagnant in an evolving world. No wonder the African youth are mostly caught between two worlds. The phrase “ UnAfrican” is so common that it is slowly becoming what we […]

Energy

Energy

The city moves with a pulse. Brick and mortar against warm bodies. It slithers, alive with need and desire. Along bree; stop and feel it, Touch, smell, taste and sight. The senses assailed by throngs of bodies moving in rhythm. Walls awash with prisms. There […]

Conversations with my wife.

Conversations with my wife.

The trouble with mainstream religion in most of its forms is that it operates on a model that separates the sacred from the profane. I am going to go on a zen-ish tip here; If we separate our most sacred selves from our lived experiences then we […]

Foreign Being

Foreign Being

There are so many crippling yet vital and fundamental realities to being born a lesbian, a woman, an African, a black person in a world as fragmented, as phobic and as patriarchal as this one. For as long as I can remember, I have felt […]